tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post9071243375099119695..comments2023-12-27T00:21:19.542-08:00Comments on Adoption at the Movies : CLOSURE: A Trans-racial Adoptee's Quest for her Birthmother (Adoption Movie Guide)Addisonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12732176527883570863noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-8095076173349503912013-11-12T15:01:11.068-08:002013-11-12T15:01:11.068-08:00Hi Gina -- thanks for sharing this information her...Hi Gina -- thanks for sharing this information here. I hope it helps lots of people! AddisonAddisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12732176527883570863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-11594068406200283602013-11-08T18:02:37.267-08:002013-11-08T18:02:37.267-08:00I searched for (& was successful in finding) m...I searched for (& was successful in finding) my birth father back in ’07. I had been looking online for a few years but nothing had turned up. I finally caught a break when I accidentally misspelled his name in a google search and, low and behold, there he was! I was 34 at the time. Anyways, I created http://www.findfamilyafar.com to help others who are in the same or similar circumstances. Please feel free to take a look. FFA is unique in that it creates a great “exposure” piece that is very useful for those persons (ie parents) that may be searching for YOU right now. Use of the site is totally free and there is no obligation. Hope this helps and perhaps will see you on http://www.findfamilyafar.com. Good luck!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13226818542440275831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-61478063267231978052013-06-05T11:21:01.358-07:002013-06-05T11:21:01.358-07:00Hi Carol. Thanks for commenting. I'm a little ...Hi Carol. Thanks for commenting. I'm a little uncertain as to what types of tests you mean. As a social worker, I completed psychosocial evaluations of prospective adoptive parents, and usually, everyone found those to be worthwhile and meaningful interviews. The site you linked to seems to offer some training resources, and training is important for anyone considering adoption, for sure. Did you mean "training" instead of "tests"? Or was this mostly to introduce that agency's website? Looking forward to hearing back from you!Addisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12732176527883570863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-83492595060434871282013-06-04T23:20:46.987-07:002013-06-04T23:20:46.987-07:00This story is really very emotional. All types of ...This story is really very emotional. All types of test should be done before adopting a child.<br /><a href="http://adoptabsc.org/pregnant/online-education.asp" rel="nofollow">adoption training online</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-8390131362858735392013-05-28T14:33:30.156-07:002013-05-28T14:33:30.156-07:00Sara, thanks so much for your feedback. I'm pr...Sara, thanks so much for your feedback. I'm pretty confident that your kids will benefit from your honesty.Addisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12732176527883570863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-37086159392181779832013-05-24T20:08:04.040-07:002013-05-24T20:08:04.040-07:00I have not seen this yet and I am so excited to se...I have not seen this yet and I am so excited to see it! I would love to be a part of showing it here. I adore the pure, not always polished, honesty you described. It does not sound pretty to feel worried that you will be replaced by someone else to your children, but you know what? that is so real. I called my children's birth mother their Amaye for a long time. Then one day during some soul searching I discovered that it was not just a way for me to cherish the language of their homeland, it was a way for me to take the word "mother" out. And I will never say it again. Not because I do not love using Amharic, the beautiful and elegant language of my beloveds. I love Amharic. But I cannot allow myself to use a word that is at all connected to my fears. I will acknowledge those fears but will not nourish them. I felt so ashamed for my feelings at first. I LOVE and admire and respect the woman who created the lives that I so cherish. The courageous women whose painful loss is my daily gain. But jealousy can be part of deep love. We don't have to live there, but I can't deny that it existed in me, at least for a short time. I hope that my honesty allows my children to share their feelings with me one day. The pure, unpolished ones. smwardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05103817420287879362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-68742635512461170082013-05-23T08:40:32.097-07:002013-05-23T08:40:32.097-07:00J - thanks for sharing your story. I tend to promo...J - thanks for sharing your story. I tend to promote openness, but I do that in the context of training a room of prospective foster parents who are fearful of it. The voices of people who've lived it carry way more weight.Addisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12732176527883570863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-31660458077395365912013-05-23T08:38:28.073-07:002013-05-23T08:38:28.073-07:00I know it's a rhetorical question, Lori. But I...I know it's a rhetorical question, Lori. But I think it's a heck of a good one.Addisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12732176527883570863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-27848165581341901962013-05-22T10:02:32.071-07:002013-05-22T10:02:32.071-07:00J.Darling - Thank you so much for your comment, it...J.Darling - Thank you so much for your comment, it is very well written. Angela and I read this last night, and had a nice discussion based off of it. You're absolutely right, for a child to experience what both you and Angela did as an adult is sometimes difficult to reconcile. Thank you for sharing a little of your story. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02361526046173401662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-22643663441382070902013-05-22T09:49:44.530-07:002013-05-22T09:49:44.530-07:00Lori - I totally agree. It wasn't easy for me...Lori - I totally agree. It wasn't easy for me to see Angela go through the low points of search and reunion. I won't speak FOR her, but I think in the end it was all neccesary, and somewhat inevitable. Probably not for every adoptee though. -BryanAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02361526046173401662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-83161065144102664412013-05-21T18:49:57.310-07:002013-05-21T18:49:57.310-07:00Hm.. Interesting. I'll have to check this one ...Hm.. Interesting. I'll have to check this one out.<br /><br />For my situation (and every one is different), I'm actually very glad I didn't meet my biologoical family until my late teens/early 20's. Closure is a great word to describe the experience. It was very grounding to finally meet people who looked like me. Granted, I could not have handled these relationships as a child, so if it had been 'open' from the begining, I probably would still have been confused, felt abandoned, and rejected anew. It just would have happened over and over again since my pivtol members of my biological family can't be in my life with any sort of consistancy (even when given the option). <br /><br />I do LOVE seeing adoption portrayed POSITIVELY though! Anything that helps display well adjusted adults as a result of adoption is helpful!-J.D. Humenayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14086704419701940067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-971426914329031578.post-30518335038592797782013-05-21T18:03:41.265-07:002013-05-21T18:03:41.265-07:00Search and reunion seem so rife with difficulty. W...Search and reunion seem so rife with difficulty. Why don't we do all we can to avoid those hardships?<br /><br />Rhetorical question.<br /><br />Looking forward to your May 27 post.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.com