*Some spoilers ahead*
Elsa and Anna are princesses of Arondale, a peaceful country
with at least some of its industry based on the harvesting and sale of ice.
Elsa, the older of the two sisters, was born with the magical ability to create
winter – frost and snow come forth from her hands at her whim. Anna loves this,
and she and Elsa often play together in homemade, magical snow. Elsa’s parents
have always been fearful of her power, and one day, Elsa seriously injures
Anna. Healers are able to revive Anna, but in order to keep her safe, they make
her forget about Elsa’s powers, and warn that Elsa’s powers must always be
hidden.
Years later, when Elsa inherits the kingdom, she has become
distant from Anna – and from everyone else. Although she dutifully tries to
hide her magical abilities, her secret gets out. Misunderstood by her subjects,
she exiles herself. Anna sets out to bring her back to the kingdom. Meanwhile,
hurt by her sister’s longstanding unavailability, Anna also seeks love, and
gains the attention of two different men.
The Adoption
Connection
Elsa has been told to keep her secret hidden. Secrecy is
called for – and practiced – in order to protect Anna, but it causes Anna and
Elsa great pain and nearly ends their sisterly relationship which had once been
so close. Secrecy in adoption is often practiced with kind but fear-based
motives (protect a child from pain), and can end up causing more pain than it
prevents. Age-appropriate honesty is a
much healthier solution than secrecy. Secrecy suggests shame, while
age-appropriate honesty allows a person to gradually come to acceptance and
integration of difficult truths.
Also, the sibling relationship in Frozen reminds me of how
central sibling relationships are to kids in foster care. Our spouses often
miss the first twenty or so years of our life. Our parents miss the last twenty
years or so. Our siblings can be there for the whole ride. It reminds me of how
important it is to keep siblings together and (in foster care) how important it
is to have families who are willing to take in sibling sets as a whole.
Strong Points
Well-performed Disney songs (Idina Menzel is one of the
leads) and lovable characters (including Olaf, a living snowman and Sven, a
personable reindeer) make this an endearing, memorable film. The film is
visually smooth, and visually beautiful in the same way that
Life of Pi is
beautiful.
Love wins out over fear.
So many Disney movies have centered on “love at first sight.”
Frozen actively challenges that notion, and suggests other, healthier kinds of
love.
Frozen demonstrates the pain and effects caused by secrecy
and fear, and shows that honesty brings healing, and (as my wife phrased it),
perfect love can drive away fear.
Sometimes, teenagers look to unhealthy sources to have their
needs met when they don’t’ feel that those needs are met by their families. Frozen
cautions against impulsivity.
Anna eagerly seeks to reconcile her relationship with Elsa,
even after years of pain. Even during the pain, Anna sticks up for her sister,
saying “she’s not a monster.”
Challenges
One character observes that Elsa’s power has only gotten
into Anna’s head. “The heart is not so easily changed, but the head can be persuaded.”
He wipes memories from Anna’s head in order to save her.
With regard to Elsa’s power, a wise character warns her,
there is beauty in it, but also danger. Her parents seem to focus on the
danger, though. They hide her away from her community and her sister. Anna, not
knowing the reason, begs her, “Come out. It’s like you’ve gone away.” Elsa is
also pained by the separation, but is unable to share the reason with Anna,
believing that the reason will do her harm. Elsa sings her mantra, “Conceal it,
don’t feel it, don’t let it show.” At another point she sings, “Don’t let them
in, don’t let them see. Conceal, don’t feel. Put on a show. One wrong move and
everyone will know.” It’s a pretty accurate explanation of the shame involved
in secrecy. She sings her wish, that we “don’t have to feel the pain of the
past anymore.” So is Anna’s explanation, “One day, Elsa just shut me out. I
never knew why.” Anna even tells Elsa, “All you know how to do is to shut
people out.” When Elsa’s secret comes
out, she embraces her identity, but still feels like this will separate her
from everyone else. In a way, this kind of makes me think of how, for a long
time, adoption was kept secret. Now we talk about it, but often, the talks are
in our angry voices and reflect a sense of dualism – adoption is either all-good
or all-bad. The film ultimately finds a balance, and I think the adoption community
will to, where people can respect each other and work together cooperatively.
(Like Kid President says… It’s OK to disagree, it’s not OK to be mean.) The
film resolves the issue positively, but make sure that your kids don’t latch
onto these songs instead of the resolution. In a nutshell: You don’t have to hide
your identity to be in community, and you don’t have to be in isolation to
embrace your true self.
Some children might be taken aback when, early in the film,
Elsa’s and Anna’s parents die. The scene is sad, but not shocking.
Recommendations
Yes! Frozen is very well-made. Kids will love it, and even
teenagers can get something out of the film, and it will be positive. I love
the fact that “love at first sight” is not portrayed as the highest love, and I
love that secrecy and fear are overcome by love. Although the main characters
are female, boys and girls will both like this one. I’d recommend it for kids
up to 14.
Questions for After
the Movie
What secrets are you keeping? Why? What are you afraid of?
Why did Elsa keep her secrets? What might have happened had
she told them earlier? How would her life have been different?
Is there anything about yourself that you’re scared of? How
can you be less afraid?
When in your life has “the truth” chased away fear?
Family Activity
Get a snow cone maker, and use that to make snow. Make a
snowman, and use leftover candy corn for the nose. Hey! Your own edible Olaf!
Wrapping Up
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Addison Cooper,
LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker and therapist with several years of
experience in foster care and adoption. He reviews movies through the lens of
adoption at
www.adoptionlcsw.com and has
also written movie reviews for Adoptive Families, The New Social Worker, and
Foster Focus magazines. Follow him on Twitter
@AddisonCooper